This is the most practical, no-BS program for anxious women ready to feel secure in love and in themselves.
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Start Date: 20 October 2025
The Connected Woman is for the woman who’s sick of chasing, doing all the work in relationships, and settling for the bare minimum in love. In 7 weeks, I’ll show you how to calm your anxious attachment, stop abandoning yourself, and finally create the kind of healthy, secure relationship you’ve always wanted.
I’ve done this work myself, and over 1,000 women have been through The Connected Woman — breaking toxic cycles, rebuilding their confidence, and becoming women who never question their worth again.
Go from anxious and self-abandoning in relationships → to secure, confident, and unf*ckwithable.
Sometimes it feels really hard…
It’s not because you’re broken.
There’s a reason you keep attracting avoidant partners, abandoning yourself, and repeating the same f*cking story in every relationship.
It’s because your nervous system and old patterns are running the show.
I know what your struggles in
relationships look like:
“I keep attracting avoidant partners.”
You start dating and it feels amazing… until they pull away, need “space,” or tell you they aren’t ready for commitment. You know you deserve more, but you can’t seem to stop falling for people who can’t meet you.
👉 Inside TCW, you’ll finally rewire the part of you that chases avoidance and learn to attract — and choose — partners who are actually *available*.
You’re listening to podcasts, reading books, going to therapy… meanwhile, your partner doesn’t lift a finger. You’re exhausted from carrying the emotional labour of the relationship and questioning if it’s even worth it.
👉 In TCW, you’ll learn how to stop over-functioning, stop trying to fix your partner, and actually show up in your power, so your dynamic changes whether they’re “doing the work” or not.
“My partner won’t do the work.”
Boundaries? Gone. Desires? Silenced. You shrink yourself to keep the peace or to keep a partner around, only to feel resentful and disconnected from who you are.
👉 TCW will teach you how to hold your boundaries without guilt, prioritise your needs, and build self-worth so fkn solid you’ll never abandon yourself again.
“I always abandon myself or lose myself in relationships.”
One minute it’s passion, the next it’s chaos. The highs are addictive, the lows are soul-crushing and no matter how many times you promise yourself you won’t go back, you do.
👉 TCW gives you the tools to regulate your nervous system, break the trauma-bond patterns, and create stability without sacrificing desire.
“I’m sick of toxic relationship cycles but don’t know how to stop.”
You understand your patterns, you can explain them in detail… but when you’re triggered, all the logic flies out the window. You’re left stuck in the same loops.
👉 TCW goes deeper than talk therapy. Through shadow work, embodiment, and nervous system regulation, you’ll actually integrate change in your body so the shifts stick.
“I’ve done therapy but nothing changed.”
You know what you *should* be doing… setting boundaries, not chasing, trusting yourself, but embodying it feels impossible. You still feel anxious, jealous, and on edge in love.
👉 TCW is your roadmap to becoming secure AF. You’ll move from anxious + avoidant patterns into confidence, self-trust, and the kind of love that feels calm, safe, and sexy.
“I want to feel secure, but I don’t know how.”
A 7-week deep dive into shadow work, embodiment, and relationship reprogramming, so you can finally stop repeating old cycles and start creating love and self-worth that actually lasts.
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This is where The Connected Woman comes in:
Real women, real results
“Once you start loving yourself, there’s no going back. It feels too good.”
Chene
“I waited over 3 years to join… wish I hadn’t.”
Heather
“I was in therapy for 5 years and thought I was super aware — but this was different.”
Jaelyn
“If you’re on the fence, absolutely do it.”
Brittney
“Everything has transformed. Not just one thing — everything.”
Sharlai
“The reason I know it’s a boundary is because it feels like loving myself.”
Amy
“I kept repeating the same patterns — and I lost confidence trying to fix it on my own.”
Emily
“I knew I needed tools to process what I was actually feeling, not just distract myself.”
Laura
“I’m a better mom, wife, friend, coach, human — just overall a better person.”
Athena
A bit about me…
but knowing doesn’t change a damn thing.
I lived that cycle too.
I’m Michelle…
You’ve read the books. You’ve sat in therapy. You’ve been told to “love yourself first.” And yet you’re still:
- Abandoning yourself to keep a partner around
- Tolerating the bare minimum
- Gaslighting yourself
- Carrying the emotional weight of every relationship and calling it “love”
your Relationship, Self-Worth & Confidence Coach, host of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast with over 2 million downloads, and the creator of The Connected Woman.
I’ve built the space I wish I had years ago. The one that doesn’t just explain your patterns but actually fucking frees you from them.
After coaching thousands of women, I saw the same fucking pattern over and over again: most women know why they’re anxious in love…
I know how soul-crushing it is to constantly people-please, bend, shrink, and convince yourself that if you could just fix yourself, maybe then you’d finally be chosen.
I’m not the coach who keeps you stuck in endless unpacking and understanding.
I’m the coach who shows you how to finally break the pattern, rewire your nervous system, and become secure AF.
Because The Connected Woman isn’t here to keep you comfortable.
It’s here to set you free.
This isn’t about “fixing” you or teaching you how to play it cool so a partner finally chooses you.
What’s Inside The Connected Woman?
This is about ripping the blinders off, cleaning up your patterns, and stepping into a version of you that doesn’t settle for crumbs—whether you’re single or partnered.
✅ Get crystal clear on whether this relationship is healthy love… or just a cycle you’ve been stuck in
✅ Learn to regulate yourself so you stop spiralling over hot/cold behaviour, the same fight on repeat or feeling like you’re the only one putting in effort
✅ Build boundaries that keep you from self-abandoning and finally show you what you *will* and *won’t* tolerate
✅ See your triggers for what they are so you stop making every argument about your partner and take your power back
✅ Decide from a grounded place—not fear, not fantasy—whether to stay, or whether it’s time to walk
If you’re in a relationship, you will:
✅ Decode *why the f*ck* you keep attracting the same unavailable and avoidant partners (and actually stop)
✅ Break the pattern of being “chill” until you catch feelings—then spiralling, obsessing, or losing yourself
✅ Build unshakable standards so you stop entertaining bare-minimum energy just to avoid being alone
✅ Learn to trust yourself again so you can date without the constant second-guessing and anxiety
✅ Walk away with real clarity, real confidence, and the ability to choose healthy love without abandoning yourself
If you’re single (or situationship-ing), you will:
YOU STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS
No matter where you’re at, this program makes one thing non-negotiable:
MODULE BREAKDOWN:
- Learn the foundations of shadow work so you can actually create lasting change (not just “know the theory”)
- Build radical self-awareness: spot your patterns, projections, and triggers as they happen
- Understand the difference between vulnerability vs emotional dumping (and why this matters in your relationships)
- Anchor into the 4 pillars of shadow work
- Practise self-responsibility + self-honesty so you stop giving your power away
- Discover the 3 phases of transformation and where you’re at in the cycle
- Overview of shadows: what they are, why they matter, and how they’re the key to breaking your relationship cycles
- Uncover the hidden parts of yourself that quietly drive your patterns in love and relationships
- See how early conditioning shaped the roles you play today (and why you feel torn between who you are and who you “should” be)
- Identify the traits you’ve been trying to hide that actually keep sabotaging your connections
- Understand why you keep repeating the same cycles even though you *know better*
- Break free from the shame that keeps you stuck in self-judgment and start seeing yourself with compassion instead of criticism
- Learn how to sit with uncomfortable emotions without spiralling, shutting down, or checking out
- Walk away with a simple, practical framework for lasting transformation—not just quick fixes that don’t stick
- Learn how to spot the physical signs of dysregulation *(so you don’t confuse anxiety, freeze, or shutdown with “intuition”)*
- Understand why you feel overwhelmed so easily and how to start feeling calm and regulated
- Get practical tools for ALL types of dysregulation *(fight, flight & freeze)*
- Build a daily regulation toolkit that actually works
- Understand why the nervous system work you HAVE been doing hasn’t worked
- A guided embodiment practice to reconnect with your body and access CHOICE instead of reacting on autopilot
- Learn how your ego creates excuses, defences, and justifications that keep you stuck in old patterns
- Spot when you’re in your ego vs your shadow vs your true self *(and why this matters in relationships)*
- Understand why you judge others for the very traits you deny in yourself *(like avoidance… yes, I’m looking at YOU!)*
- Learn the number one thing that keeps people looping the same patterns on repeat for years *(and how to stop it)*
- Recognise how ego sabotage shows up in love
- Practise shifting from reactive ego responses to grounded, curious, true-self responses
- Identify the core wounds formed in childhood and how they secretly run your love life
- Understand how trauma *(big or small)* shapes the way you show up in relationships today
- Spot where you over-express *(people pleasing, overgiving, performing*) and under-express *(needs, vulnerability, truth)* in order to keep love
- See how your blueprint makes you attract emotionally unavailable partners, drama cycles, or bare-minimum people
- Break the unconscious pattern of choosing partners and situations that reinforce your old story
- Learn how to rewrite your concept of self so you stop proving you’re “not enough/too much” and start owning your worth
- Uncover the unconscious archetypes driving your relationship patterns
- See how overfunctioning *(people pleasing, rescuing, over-giving)* and underfunctioning *(withdrawing, blaming, manipulating)* play out in your love life
- Understand the hidden payoffs you get from staying in these roles and why you keep attracting the same dynamics
- See why you keep getting pulled into the same toxic dynamics over and over because of these shadow archetypes and how to finally break free
- Turn the parts of yourself you’ve been shaming into strengths, so you stop abandoning yourself and start feeling solid in who you are
- Step into and feel your shadow archetypes in the body *(this is one of the MOST potent practices I have EVER taught)*
- Use embodiment practices to release stuck energy instead of just “understanding it in your head”
- Experience hot seat coaching to get direct feedback on your patterns and blind spots
- Meet your inner child *(the part of you that holds your deepest wounds and most tender needs)*
- Identify how your wounded inner child shows up in love: jealousy, reactivity, people-pleasing, emotional outbursts, or shutting down
- Learn how reactivity patterns block intimacy and connection
- Practise reparenting tools to build self-trust and safety from within
- Use sensitivity and vulnerability as your superpowers instead of armour
- Learn to stop reacting from old wounds and start responding from your true self
- Audit your past + present to map the patterns running your love life
- Learn to spot where you’re the common denominator and reclaim your power to choose differently
- Learn my signature Triggers Process to stop blow-ups and shutdowns
- Use my secret process to identify projections *(this is always a fan favourite)*
- Discover how to see your patterns without shame and break them 10x faster
- Practice regulated communication
- Understand what projections are and how they sabotage intimacy
- Spot the difference between projection and reality so you stop mistaking triggers for truth
- Learn the two biggest projectional love traps *(you have definitely been in one of these before)*
- See how your ego keeps you looping in these dynamics by chasing the familiar, even when it hurts
- Practise withdrawing your projections so you stop blaming, pedestal-ing, or villainising partners—and start owning your part
- Use relationships as mirrors to experience deeper connection, NOT separation
- Learn how to safely access and release deep emotions without shame or fear
- Practise emotional alchemy: transform “too much” feelings into power, clarity, and intimacy
- Use guided embodiment and emotional release tools to clear stuck energy from your body
- Experience hot seat coaching for personalised breakthroughs in real time
- Learn why boundaries create closeness, not distance and how they build trust in love
- Spot the signs you need stronger boundaries
- Understand the difference between requests vs requirements so you stop settling for less than you want
- Practise clear boundary language that communicates without controlling
- Build self-trust by honouring your own boundaries first so others take them seriously too
- Discover how to hold consequences with integrity instead of empty threats
- Shift from blame to curiosity after ruptures
- Learn why you mother your partner and how to stop doing it
- Discern projection vs reality when it comes to the masculine
- Learn how the masculine receives love (as it’s VERY different to the feminine!) and how to implement it NOW
- Hold your own boundaries so your partner isn’t your therapist/teacher/everything
- Pull everything you’ve learned together so it actually sticks in your daily life and relationships
- Get personalised support and hot-seat coaching to work through your biggest triggers and patterns
- Practise applying the tools in real-time so you stop defaulting to old habits under pressure
- Leave with clarity, confidence, and an action plan for how to keep embodying this work long after the program ends
Most women already know why they’re the way they are.
And yet… you’re still:
👉 Attracting avoidant partners
👉 Abandoning yourself to “make it work”
👉 People-pleasing and over-functioning in every relationship
👉 Wondering why the f*ck nothing actually changes
That’s because most spaces will explain your wounds… but they won’t teach you how to become secure.
The Connected Woman isn’t about coddling you with affirmations or giving you another intellectual understanding of your trauma.
You’ve read the books, been to therapy, talked your patterns to death.
You’ve unpacked, processed, and analysed until you’re blue in the face.
It’s about breaking the cycle for GOOD.
A BTS LOOK INSIDE THE CONNECTED WOMAN
Here’s everything you get inside The Connected Woman
No more bingeing podcasts hoping something lands. You get me, live, twice a week teaching you how to move through your actual patterns. Can’t make it? Every call is recorded so you can’t fall behind.
THE CONNECTED WOMAN
14 Live Coaching Calls (with replays)
Think of this as your inner circle. A space to share wins, ask me your messy questions, and connect with women who are on the exact same path. Real-time support, no BS, no sugar-coating.
Private Telegram Group
You can’t just “think positive” and magically become secure. These guided practices get you out of your head, into your body, and actually rewiring your patterns so the change sticks.
Embodiment Practices
Extra trainings, audios, and tools that hit different. Your personal vault for going deeper into self-worth, confidence, and relationships.
Bonus Resources
No fluff here. Just the books and resources I know will expand you, hand-picked to back up what you’re learning inside the program.
Suggested Reading List
Simple but potent exercises that take this from “good information” to actual transformation in your love life.
Workbooks to Support Your Learning
Because healing doesn’t have to be dry. Each module comes with curated playlists to fuel your embodiment practices and make the work feel juicy as fkkk.
Playlists for Each Module
BECOME THE SECURE WOMAN YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE
Next Cohort Starts: 20th October 2025
$1,444
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5x monthly payments of $340
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Limited spots for 7 weeks of teaching & coaching
- 14 live group calls (with replays)
- Exclusive Telegram access to me + the community
- Nervous system + embodiment practices that actually shift your patterns
- Workbooks, playlists, and bonus resources to lock it all in
- Lifetime access to all trainings + replays
**I know how painful it is to feel like you’re on the cusp of your next level self but still have those same sabotaging patterns popping up just when you think everything is going great. How permanent it feels.**
**But I PROMISE you, it does not have to be like this. In order for things to be different though, you need to do something different. Nothing changes if nothing changes. YOU have to be ready for something more.**
**This program only opens a few times a year so once it’s gone, it’s gone. I would hate for you to keep looping the exact same shit for another 6 months.**
I have been where you are right now.
NOW IS THE TIME TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
The secret to getting everything you want in this life comes down to you being willing to get uncomfortable, and actively go after what you want,
because you know you deserve it.
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faq
The Connected Woman is a 7-week live group program where I teach you how to break free from anxious + avoidant cycles, stop abandoning yourself, and finally feel secure in love and in life. It’s not theory or “just journal on it” advice. It’s the exact process I’ve taken thousands of women through to build real confidence, self-worth, and secure relationships.
This isn’t about talking in circles or another program that leaves you hyped for a week and then back at square one. This is work that actually sticks.
This is for the woman who is sick of:
If you’re ready to stop settling for crumbs and become the woman who chooses, not chases, this is for you.
You don’t have to already be “confident” or “secure” to join. The Connected Woman is literally designed to take you from anxious and self-abandoning to secure AF.
- Attracting emotionally unavailable partners
- Losing herself in every relationship
- Carrying all the emotional labour while her partner does nothing
- Reading all the books and doing all the therapy but still looping the same patterns and wondering why nothing is shifting
- Wondering if she’s “too much” or “not enough”
If you’re ready to stop settling for crumbs and become the woman who chooses, not chases, this is for you.
You don’t have to already be “confident” or “secure” to join. The Connected Woman is literally designed to take you from anxious and self-abandoning to secure AF.
If you want a quick fix, surface-level “tips,” or a space to vent without taking responsibility, this isn’t for you.
It’s also not for you if you need trauma therapy or deep clinical support. The Connected Woman is powerful, but it’s not a substitute for working with a licensed professional.
If you’re here to dabble or half-commit, you won’t get the results. This is for women ready to actually change how they do love.
This isn’t about talking in circles or another program that leaves you hyped for a week and then back at square one. This is work that actually sticks.
You’ll have access to me inside the private Telegram group, where you can ask questions, get feedback, and share your wins as you move through the program.
You’ll also have the opportunity to be coached directly by me on select live calls.
If you think group coaching means you’ll get lost in the crowd, think again. Past clients have often said the community support + hot seats gave them even more breakthroughs than 1:1.
Perfect. You don’t need prior experience with personal development. I’ll guide you step by step, and The Connected Woman is designed to meet you where you’re at. All you need is a willingness to show up and be honest with yourself.
Being new isn’t a disadvantage… in fact, you might find it easier to integrate because you’re not unlearning a heap of shitty advice from everywhere else.
That’s why everything is recorded. You’ll have lifetime access to all trainings and replays, so you can move through at your own pace. Even if you can’t make every live call, you’ll still get everything you need to shift your patterns.
You don’t need hours every day. This is about deep, efficient work that fits into your life, not another time-sucking hobby.
Yes. Once you’re in, you’re in. You’ll have lifetime access to all trainings, replays, and resources.
No rush, no expiry. You can revisit modules and practices anytime you need a reset.
No. You’ll get the most out of it if you can show up live, but life happens. Every call is recorded, uploaded, and yours forever.
Missing a call doesn’t mean you’ll “fall behind.” You can always catch up, and you’ll still be supported inside Telegram.
You’ll catch the replay. You can also submit your questions in the Telegram group so I can address them even if you can’t be there live.
You won’t lose your spot in the transformation just because you can’t be glued to Zoom at every single session.
Therapy helps you understand your patterns, but understanding isn’t the same as changing. The Connected Woman goes deeper by working with your nervous system, shadows, and embodied practices. This is where it stops being an intellectual exercise and actually rewires how you show up in relationships.
If therapy gave you awareness but you’re still stuck in the same loops — The Connected Woman is the missing piece.
Here’s the truth: continuing the same cycles is costing you far more than this program ever will. That said, I offer payment plans to make it accessible. At the end of the day, only you can decide if breaking these patterns is worth prioritising now.
Most women wait for the “perfect time”, but there isn’t one. The cycle won’t magically end on its own. If you’re ready to change, the best time to do this work is now.