What does vulnerability really mean? 

If you never talked about your feelings, you’re scared to let people in, or you don’t like to confront certain situations, this post is for you. 

In this post, I’m going to be talking all about overcoming vulnerability and why it’s so important for your personal life and your relationships. Instead of living behind a mask, it’s time to realize that vulnerability is different for everyone and we all have different things to share with others.

What is vulnerability? 

Vulnerability is the willingness to be wounded. It is the willingness to put yourself out there, risk rejection, risk abandonment, and risk people thinking differently of you. Vulnerability is dealing with the possibility of people leaving and not liking what you have to say. 

What feels vulnerable to you, may be different than someone else’s definition of vulnerability. You have to decide what’s vulnerable for you and a lot of people fear this! 

The thing is, it’s not the fear of being vulnerable, it’s the fear of the consequences. You’re scared you’re going to be rejected or abandoned and that’s totally normal. We fear this so deeply that we are willing to close off our hearts and not let anyone in. You need to realize that this isn’t having boundaries, this is having your walls up. 

Of course, you should have boundaries and limits around vulnerability because there are people who should have the privilege to know certain things about you and people who shouldn’t.

How to overcome your fear of being vulnerable. 

You don’t have to share everything at once. Reveal your layers slowly, one at a time. Once you reveal one layer, you then get to decide how it felt and if you want to go deeper with that person. 

If you get rejected or feel uncomfortable, I don’t want you to give up on vulnerability. Learn how to hold yourself through that and risk again but with a different person. Don’t go back and keep sharing with others who don’t appreciate or acknowledge your feelings. 

Use your heart and your sensitivity as a compass to navigate the world and find the greatest way to keep yourself safe. This is why it’s so important to be able to hold yourself through all of your range of emotions. 

How your vulnerability is received is not your responsibility. Your responsibility in your relationships is showing up and speaking your truth. Be honest and accept the response you get because you can’t choose how other people feel, you can only choose how you feel.

Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Being Vulnerable (& Why It’s so Important): The Bottomline

Thank you so much for reading! I hope this post helps you overcome your fear of being vulnerable and realize that vulnerability is healthy. Vulnerability has been demonized for a very long time but it is one of the most courageous things you can put yourself through. It takes bravery and risk to be vulnerable, but a relationship without vulnerability is a relationship with no connection. 

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