Welcome to your sneak peek at SHADOW HUNTER, a free three-day masterclass on what shadow work actually is.

If you’re going “Um, what’s shadow work?” or even, “What are shadows?” then…great news! You’re in the right place.

I talk about shadows and shadow work aaall the fucking time. But I realized recently just how many people don’t actually know what those things mean, and without knowing WTF shadows even are, how are you supposed to do the work?

So, obviously we’re not going to go through three days’ worth of material here—but I want to give you a quick intro to what you’ll be getting out of SHADOW HUNTER. I’m going to start by breaking down what shadows are, how shadows are created in the first place, some examples of shadows, and why shadow work is important.

What Are Shadows?

First, let’s talk about what shadows are.

Shadows are the parts of ourselves that we repress, deny, shame, feel we have no control over, don’t trust, or avoid seeing about ourselves.

If you find yourself saying things like, “I don’t know why I keep doing that. It just keeps happening. I feel so out of control,” then you’re probably dealing with some shadows.

A shadow is often something that you don’t trust about yourself, or something that you avoid seeing in yourself because it doesn’t fit your concept of self.

For example, if you see yourself as a very sweet, kind person, and then something happens and you end up flying off the handle, it feels very out of character, right?

Here’s an Example…

In my case, something that didn’t fit my concept of self was the idea that I wasn’t emotionally available.

Let me ask this: are you emotionally available, but you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men or partners?

Brace yourself.

You’re not emotionally available.

I hate to tell you that, but it’s true.

This was sobering for me to realize. What I discovered was that I unconsciously wanted to attract emotionally unavailable people, because then I got to be the emotionally available one. I got to be the one who went, “Look at me, I’m so conscious, I can communicate, I’m so open, I’m so vulnerable…” until I met an emotionally available man, and then I got so spooked. I just wanted to hide.

The Shadow Swap

And here’s the real kicker with shadows: you might not recognize them in yourself, but get really fucking triggered by other people doing that thing.

For example, you’ll be like, “I just don’t get why people can’t tell the fucking truth. Why can’t people just be honest? Why can’t they just be fucking honest?” And yet, you’re blind to where you’re fucking dishonest.

You’ll know that it’s shadowy shit because you’ll have no empathy when someone else does that thing. You’ll have no compassion for it, because you haven’t owned that trait within yourself.

If I’ve owned that I have the capacity to lie, I’ll have compassion for someone lying because I understand where that comes from.

Here’s the thing with shadows—and I don’t know who this quote comes from, so this is not mine—but it’s someone’s, and they were spot on: “If you spot it, you got it.” So if you can recognize it in another person, that means it also exists within you.

A List of Shadows

I’m going to give you a list of some potential shadows, and I want you to notice how your body feels and take note of any words that make you feel really, really weird inside. Especially if you immediately feel the need to go, “I’m not that.”

Greedy.

Bitchy.

Jealous.

Manipulative.

Liar.

Predator.

Misogynistic.

Addict.

Disgusting.

Rude.

Self-centered.

Selfish.

Prude.

Slut.

Cheater.

Cruel.

Needy.

Anxious.

Avoidant.

Destructive.

Murder.

Stupid.

Insecure.

Trashy.

Vindictive.

Resentful.

Angry.

Loser.

Weak.

Defensive.

Mean.

Any of those hitting for you?

What is Shadow Work?

Now that you know what shadows are…what the fuck is shadow work, and why is it important?

I want you to understand why it’s important for us to do, because I’m well aware I just listed off a lot of different traits that are not sounding too fun. You’re like, “Um, you just called me selfish and a liar and a slut? I don’t know about this.”

Stick with me. I promise this is important.

Shadow work is about coming into awareness of our full selves. I believe it’s about seeing ourselves clearly, diving deep into our unconscious patterns, and seeing it all, not just the good parts, and restoring wholeness.

There will be people who tend to gravitate towards only wanting to see the light. Then there’s the other side of the coin, which is where I fell. I was able to see where I was a liar and a victim and all of these things, but what I had to work so hard on was allowing myself to see the light. I am powerful. I’m beautiful. I’m sensual. I am confident. Those were all very hard for me to reclaim.

So no matter where you fall on this, shadow work is about coming into totality with ourselves and getting to see reality, both the light and the dark.

Carl Jung, who was the innovator of shadow work, said this: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life, and you will continue to call it fate.”

So when we can integrate the parts of ourselves that we once disowned, rejected, shamed. repressed, avoided looking at, etcetera, we can then reclaim our sense of wholeness.

When we don’t do shadow work, we’re exaggerating what we think is approved of, and we will downplay what’s not approved of. And that does us a disservice, because here’s the thing: if you haven’t owned that you’re a liar, you will lie in little places. You won’t identify as a liar, even if you are, because you won’t notice it.  But when we start to own the fact that we’re liars, we get comfortable with it, and the charge goes away…but we also will stop lying, because we’ll bring it into equilibrium and we’ll start just being honest.

So why is this so important? Because when we are not whole within ourselves, we will seek out our shadows in other people.

When we are not whole within ourselves, we will unconsciously seek out people, events, and circumstances  that reflect our shadows back to us so that we can experience transcribed wholeness through another person.

Let’s say you have not owned the part of you that is selfish. When you have not owned the part of you that is selfish, you will attract friends, partners, clients, bosses, etc. who want to take, take, take, take, take, take, and then take some more.

Why do you do this? Because they are showing you selfishness, and then you have an excuse to take that back.

Now, I can be selfish.  We need to be selfish sometimes. We need to have the ability to act in our own self-interest. But if you don’t clock that in yourself, you’ll keep attracting people who are selfish. And not only that, but you’ll never be able to stop being selfish, because we can only change what we are conscious of.

We’re Never “Done”

This is why in my free content, on my podcast, in my social media, I say this mantra for shadow work over and over: clock it, own it, clean it up.

And today, I’m going to add to it: clock it, own it, clean it up, repeat.

A lot of people are like, “But I did it one time. Isn’t that it?”

Nope. Sorry. You’re actually gonna have to do it, like…fucking 1,800 more times.

We ain’t done. We never are. And not from a space of, “I’m never good enough.” It’s not that. It’s just that we’re always evolving. We’re always gaining new awareness about ourselves, so there’s always new stuff we need to tackle.

So this was your quick and dirty intro to shadow work. But to get the full picture, you’re going to want to get your booty into SHADOW HUNTER. It’s free, it fucking should not be free because of all the value I’ve packed into it, and it’s going to jump you from shadow work newbie to being ready to take on a shadow hunt of your own.

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