Hello, my loves. You are in for a fucking treat, because I have one of my OG clients in the house today: everyone get excited to meet Steph Normoyle!

If you guys love somatic work and nervous system regulation and you want to learn more about it, you want to check out Steph’s business, Club Soma. But first…

Meet Steph!

Michelle: So Steph, please tell the people who you are!

Steph: Well, as you said, I’m Steph. I am a somatic practitioner, and I’m the founder of my own business called Club Soma.

The tagline for the business is “Where women get what the fuck they want.” And that’s exactly what I’m here to help with as a somatic practitioner.

I started the business a few months ago, and to put it simply, it is a place where women get to go to explore their sensuality as a way to be more bold, more confident, and more authentic in who they are.

Before The Connected Woman

Michelle: So as I said, you’re one of the OGs. Take me back to 2020, before you joined The Connected Woman. Where were you at back then? What was happening in your life?

Steph:  To start, I was so disconnected from my body back then. I was incredibly anxious and incredibly lost in who I was. I didn’t know where I wanted to go.

I especially didn’t know how to set boundaries as a people pleaser, and that led to so much overwhelm and stress.

I ended up finding you on a podcast that I listened to, and I was just so drawn to your energy because you were showing something that I desired to be myself.

I wanted to be more confident. I wanted to be more bold. I wanted to say whatever the fuck I wanted, and you were doing all those things.

I started to follow you, and the first message I sent you was, “Where did you learn to be a life coach?” Because I wanted to pursue that. And you said, “Have you ever had a coach before?”

My response? “No, but I’ve done so much work on myself. I really feel like that’s the next step.” Like, I’ve like done some journaling and some affirmations and called it a day.

That’s when you spoke to me about The Connected Woman. Initially, I thought it was for single women, so I didn’t think it was right for me since I was in a relationship at the time. In fact, I’m still in a relationship with the same person.

But you were quick to clarify that the program, at its core, is about connection to yourself. And since that’s what I was missing, it didn’t take much convincing for me to sign up.

The Most Impactful Piece

Steph: That program completely opened up my world. It called me out and made me feel seen at the same time; it completely transformed my relationship with men and my relationship with my body.

Honestly, I would say the most impactful module—which I didn’t expect at all, since I wasn’t going into it as a single woman—was the “Understanding Men” module.

Michelle: Do you know what’s funny? I think I’ve made tweaks to every single module except that one, because it’s honestly perfection. In fact, it took up until this last year for me to be able to deliver that training without crying.  It’s just that powerful.

I love that it was your favorite module, and it wasn’t even what you came in for!

Steph: No, not at all. I didn’t even realize how much I was contributing to the dynamic in my own relationship until I did The Connected Woman. I didn’t realize how much I was nitpicking, controlling, and really giving off mother energy rather than partner energy.

And on top of that, the “Understanding Men” module was just incredible in the way it helped me see how much I actually disrespected my partner at that time.

I had no idea what I was doing to him. That really broke me down and made me see him—and really, all the men in my life—in such a different way.

I think when women go into relationships, particularly nowadays, the attitude of “I’m an independent woman. I don’t need a man. Men are trash.” is extremely prevalent…yet they still want to be taken care of. They want to be with a man that will step up for them.

You can’t have both. You can’t have that attitude and that desire simultaneously. And that’s what that module showed me. 

Michelle: Legit. Like, imagine going on a date with a guy and he goes, “Yeah, women are bitches and whores…but I can’t wait to wife one up.”  You’d be like, “I’m sorry, what?”

Steph: Exactly.

Michelle: How long have you and your partner been together now?

Steph: Ten years.

Michelle: Ten fucking years.

Steph: I know. But I think back to the dynamic we had then compared to now, and I don’t even know who that woman is anymore. Or that man. It’s shifted so much.

Impact on Relationships

Michelle: Even though you didn’t come in for relationship stuff, how did The Connected Woman impact your relationships in general? Not just your partner, but with your family and friends?

Steph: With every relationship in my life, I felt like I could  show up as the person I needed to be for every single person I loved.

My friendships have changed completely since then, in a good way. I was able to forge deeper connections. I know these friends are my ride-or-dies. I can literally count on them for anything, and I didn’t have that before I joined.

Michelle: This is what people don’t understand, because people typically come in for the relationship stuff. But when you connect to yourself, everything changes.

You’re going to find something so much deeper than, I don’t know, getting back together with your ex or getting your current partner to stop being so avoidant or whyever people are coming in initially.

Primarily, you’re going to find a love for yourself and a connection to yourself. The relationship, the business, the friendships, the body confidence…that is all a by-product of your connection to yourself. It’s all the cherry on top.

Connect with Steph…and Connect with Yourself

This isn’t all Steph and I chatted about—we also went deep into discussing somatic work and embodiment practices on Episode 172 of Unf*ck Your Relationships. So if you’re fascinated by that kind of work or want to learn more about it, listen to that episode ASAP. It’s fucking mind-blowing.

And if you want to work with Steph, I have great news: Steph is launching her own group program starting in November called A Taste of Your Own Medicine.

(Side note: doesn’t that sound like it’s going to be juicy as fuck? That is such a good name.)

According to Steph, it’s going to be all about tapping into your sensuality as a way to be more bold, set more boundaries, know what you want, know what you need, and learn how to fucking ask for it.

And if the transformation Steph went through has you going “Um, I need that in my life,” then get your booty into The Connected Woman. You will not come out the same woman you went in, guaranteed.

WORK WITH STEPH:

Join Steph’s free workshop, SOMA & SIP: https://www.clubsoma.com.au/soma-sip

Join Steph’s group program, A TASTE OF YOUR OWN MEDICINE:  https://www.clubsoma.com.au/group-program

CONNECT WITH STEPH:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_clubsoma/ 

Website: https://www.clubsoma.com.au

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning

Website: http://www.michellepanning.comp://www.michellepanning.com