How to Be the “Dream Girl” of Your Own Love Life in 2025
Hello, my loves. It is almost 2025, which means it’s time for us to talk about how to be That Bitch when it comes to your love life.
I am sick of watching women put themselves at the bottom of the barrel and settle for absolute crumbs when it comes to their love life, then wonder why they’re getting roadblocked over and over and over.
It’s time we became our own “dream girl” in our love lives. Let’s explore who that is, shall we?
Who is the “Dream Girl”?
1. She ISN’T Perfect
So the first thing that I want to say about being the Dream Girl is that the Dream Girl is not perfect; she’s secure. There’s a big difference.
Being the Dream Girl is not about being perfect. Perfection is actually quite boring; nobody connects with someone who feels they are above everybody else.
Being the Dream Girl is not about placing yourself on a pedestal and putting out this image to the world that you are better than everyone else. You’re not. You’re human.
Instead, the energy of being the Dream Girl comes down to an energy of security. That being said…
2. She Does Not Lead With Insecurity
This doesn’t mean that in order to be the Dream Girl in your love life, you need to lead with your insecurities.
I actually see a lot of women do this because they feel uncomfortable taking up space and being in the spotlight. They tend to lead with their insecurities and undercut themselves and their accomplishments by saying, “Oh, it wasn’t my best work,” or “Oh, I didn’t try that hard,” etcetera, etcetera.
I wouldn’t do that either. The Dream Girl is fucking secure in herself. She’s unapologetic in how she moves in the world; she’s not apologizing for being single or for being in a relationship. She’s not apologizing for not getting plastic surgery or getting plastic surgery. She’s not apologizing for being loud or being quiet.
Instead, she’s leading with different parts and facets of her personality at different times…and that gets to be perfect.
3. She Does Not Drop Her Standards
The Dream Girl is also very committed and convicted in what she knows to be true about her life, and she’s unwilling to drop her standards for anybody.
Again, this isn’t about this idea of, “I have these standards and no man can ever reach them.” It’s about, “I know my standards, and the man who’s going to be my partner can’t wait to meet those standards.”
That man is not huffing and puffing about having to meet your standards. He’s actually genuinely so excited to meet them, because he too has very, very high standards for his life and knows that his wife is going to have the same standards for her life as well.
4. She Leans Into Her Feminine
If you want to be the Dream Girl of your own love life in 2025, it’s time to lean into your feminine energy.
When you feel safe to lean back and relax into your feminine energy, you will bring out the best in men.
The feminine really inspires men to step up; it inspires the masculine energy, which is all about protection and provision and leadership.
If you want that dynamic between you and a partner, you need to know that you cannot inspire the masculine through controlling and nagging.
When we lean out of our feminine energy, we lose our ability to relax and let our partner lead. We end up trying to control things, or we nag them about making the changes we want them to make.
“But if I don’t nag him, how am I going to get my needs met?” You, Dream Girl, are going to lean back and lead with desire instead.
Leading with desire is not about giving him a laundry list of things you want. It’s about making it playful. It’s about making it exciting.
Instead of saying, “Why don’t you ever plan dates?” and criticizing him, here’s how you claim that Dream Girl energy and lead from desire:
“I would love to go do something fun this weekend. I would love if you could do that; I fully trust you to come up with something.”
That “I trust you to come up with something” puts the responsibility back on him to figure it out without making it a demand or a criticism.
Feminine energy is about softness and playfulness, but the biggest thing that underpins it all is your ability to receive.
It’s not about being weak. The feminine is not weak. The feminine is about being so secure in yourself that you can surrender control and trust because at the end of the day, the reason you can trust your partner is because you trust yourself.
5. She Puts Her Needs First
The last piece of transforming into the Dream Girl of your own love life is understanding that If you want to be the Dream Girl in 2025, it requires you to put your needs first.
Both your needs and your partner’s needs matter. Your needs are not more important than your partner’s, nor are his more important than yours…but it’s each person’s responsibility to meet their own needs first. And once you have that overflow, then you can look at each other and go, “Okay, cool. I’d love to do XYZ for you. What do you need?”
Let’s Recap
So, to recap…
Being the Dream Girl is about internal security, not perfection or downplaying yourself by leading with insecurity. Men want respect, not criticism. The feminine energy inspires the masculine, and understanding and being sensitive to men’s needs does not mean abandoning your own.
If you take away one thing from this, i want it to be that becoming the Dream Girl starts with you becoming secure in yourself. There’s no if, ands, or buts around it. Everything else—the healthy relationship, the magnetism, inspiring men, bringing out the best in men—everything flows from that place.
If this hit home for you…then it’s time, my girl. It’s time for you to do something other than sit around listening to podcasts, reading blogs and books, and learning about how to do the work—it’s time to actually DO the work.
The Experience is my year-long mentorship designed to help you become your most confident, bold, sexy, embodied, secure motherfucking version of yourself, and I’d love for you to join.
In The Experience, we’re doing deep shadow work. We’re doing embodiment practices. We’re using tools to transform not just your relationships, but your entire fucking life.
Like I said, it all starts with you. Imagine waking up every day and knowing you’re the Dream Girl—you’re secure, you’re magnetic, and you are completely unfuckwithable.
If you’re ready for that, click the link below and join us inside The Experience. It is an entire fucking vibe. Let’s not delay this another fucking second.
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I'm Michelle
about the host
I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”
