What’s the one thing everybody HATES talking about? 

…Their feelings! 

In this post today, don’t fear, but we’re going to be breaking down our feelings because guess what? They’re the star of the show!

So, if you’re ready to understand your own patterns and triggers, stay tuned! 

What happens when our emotions are triggered. 

When we’re triggered, we’re not in the right state of mind. Our rational thoughts COMPLETELY leave the building because when we get triggered we go into fight flight freeze or fawn (people-pleasing) mode. 

So basically when we’re triggered, we’re going into the part of the brain that’s responsible for those automatic responses. We go into this mode because we’re just trying to get our needs met.

Some people want attention so badly that they’ll do whatever to make it happen even if it means throwing off their own emotional pattern.

Taking a step back when you’re triggered.

If you’re someone who is more on the anxious side, this might be a little harder and honestly feel like torture. People who carry a lot of anger are generally repressing a lot of hurt and sadness, which makes them act out. 

If this is you, ask yourself, what is underneath this? 

Get to the bottom of why you’re feeling what you’re feeling and take a step back when you feel triggered. It’s really important to give yourself space so you can understand yourself. 

Get connected to your body and feel all the sensations because you need to become familiar with the signs that you need to release. Do whatever you need to do to get your emotions out and release anger. 

These emotions only have control and power over you when you repress them and deny them, which is why it’s super important to take a step back and breathe when you feel them coming back up.

Balancing your emotions. 

When you EXPLODE your emotions, you’re punishing the other person but when you SHUT DOWN your emotions, you’re punishing yourself. Remember that!

Think about the abuse you are spewing into the world, whether that’s on you or another person. When you shut down, people can’t connect with you because you cut out all connections and that’s the last thing anybody wants.

Stop sabotaging the connection between you and yourself and you and others. 

One way to balance your emotions is to journal and write down what you’re feeling so that you can get connected with the sensations in your body and release your emotions.

Gaining Control Over Your Emotions: The Importance of Understanding Your Patterns and Triggers: The Bottomline 

Thank you so much for reading! I hope this post helps you understand your emotions, patterns, and triggers more. Know that you are not on your own and whether you explode or shut down, you’re perfectly whole and there are ways to change this. 

Be sure to connect with me more over on Instagram, I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. 

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EPISODE RESOURCES: 

Trauma Healing Modalities mentioned in the episode:

Somatic Psychotherapy

EMDR
Somatic Experiencing 

*You will need to do your own research to find a practitioner near you*