If you had ANY type of hesitation in your answer, listen up!
In this post, I want to talk to you about trust, especially when it comes to men. If someone has done absolutely nothing to break your trust, then the only one stopping you from trusting is you. Want to break this habit? Keep reading!
Dealing with the past to move forward.
If you know where your distrust of men is coming from, it’s important to look back at those signs and think about the red flags you were ignoring. At the end of the day, you have no control over if someone will break your trust. The only thing in your control is how you choose to respond.
The last thing I want you to do is self-sabotage every single relationship because of things that have happened in the past. Get really honest with yourself and work through your distrust. Once you work through it, you won’t be as worried to start a new relationship and you won’t be thinking that they’re going to do the same things the last person did.
When you are aware of the signs from your last relationship that caused you to have that distrust, you know what to look for in a new man.
Trusting yourself before trusting a man.
When you get into a new relationship after still having distrust in men, you’re projecting a lack of trust onto the other person. This is ALL due to the fact that you don’t trust yourself because you weren’t aware of the signs last time.
Here is what happens: You don’t want to deal with the reality or realization so you put it on them!
If someone were to cheat on me, don’t get me wrong, I would be absolutely devastated but I trust myself enough to move on and stand up for myself. I have developed this amazing trust in myself and when you get to that point, you’ll develop trust for another man.
If you learn to trust yourself, you can see the difference between your intuition and your fear of being wounded again. The reality is that you have to trust yourself to hold yourself…
How to build trust in a relationship.
There is this amazing quote from Ester Perel that basically says trust in a relationship is not the idea that you will never hurt each other, it’s the idea that you WILL hurt each other but you will take the right steps to repair it and come together.
THAT is how you build trust in relationships! Admitting where you were wrong, fixing the problem, and moving forward. Trust is not something you blindly give out; people have to work for it.
Trust needs to be earned and that’s when you lean in and ask yourself if something or someone feels safe. My biggest tip is to tap into your inner masculine so that you feel supported to a point where you’re not relying on another person.
Sharing My Top Tips if You Struggle With Trust in Relationships: The Bottomline
Thank you so much for reading! I hope this post helps you trust your partner but also yourself because they 100% go hand in hand. Back yourself up so that type of energy spills into your relationships! Building trust is not an easy process but once you get there, you will see a huge change in the way you view others and yourself.
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See you back here in the next one!
Sharing My Top Tips if You Struggle With Trust in Relationships
I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”