Hello, loves. Today, I want to start out by saying this: I feel this new energy coming through in my life, in my business, in my podcast…just everywhere. So there’s a new energy that I have calibrated to, and I started to think about the different archetypes that I have started to embody in my life, in my relationship with money, all of it. And one of the archetypes that I’ve started to embody is the energy of the seductress.
What is a seductress? If you’re not familiar, the seductress archetype is basically a woman who can seduce. You may hear that and think of seducing men, and while there’s an element of that, it’s really about a woman who can seduce her desires into her world. That’s kind of the energy that I’ve been calibrating to, and a lot has shifted in my world. So today I’m going to talk about the archetype of the seductress and what that really means, because I believe when we ask the question, “What is a seductress?” we usually start to think of classic Femme Fatales, right? It’s a character archetype that tends to put herself and her desires above all others, as well as leaning far into methods of manipulation. And that is one of the things that we need to be aware of, because it is one of the shadows surrounding the seductress.
Personally, I fucking owned the manipulative seductress when I was stripping. I also thought that if I looked a certain way, it would be so fucking easy to get what I wanted.
Now, the energy of a seductress has absolutely nothing to do with how you look. You could have a set of identical twins walk into a room, and one could get all of the attention while one is barely even seen. What is a seductress? It’s all in the way you carry yourself. A seductress is not afraid to take up space. She’s confident. There’s an energy behind it. It’s a woman who fully inhabits her body.
If you see a woman walk into a room and she’s not “conventionally attractive,” yet she commands the attention of the room, she’s likely owning that energy. This is also why you could have someone who’s incredibly conventionally attractive, very beautiful physically, but their energy says they don’t feel confident. I don’t feel whatever.
That’s not to say that you can’t manifest your desires if you don’t feel confident all the time. When I first made a huge investment into my mentor, I basically cleared out my bank account to work with her. I did not feel super confident, but there was a part of me that I trusted deeply enough to make that decision. When I was stripping, I wasn’t always confident, but I had the wherewithal to be able to anchor back into that confidence. So what is a seductress? First and foremost, she knows how to cling to confidence.
What is a seductress? She’s fucking unapologetic in what she wants. And in our society that stands out, because we have something called tall poppy syndrome.
If you’re not from Australia, you might not know what that means. Let me explain. If you’re looking at a field of poppies, and one of the poppies is growing too quickly and it’s taller than the rest of the poppies, the farmers will go and chop off that poppy to make them all level again. And that’s kind of what we do in our society. We get tall poppy syndrome; we don’t want to be above people. We don’t want to stand out for the wrong reasons or even the right reasons. We absolutely do not want to draw attention to ourselves, so we shut ourselves down. We make ourselves smaller. We try to be a nice girl. We try to stifle our truth. Our voices are fucking shut down. But the seductress? The seductress doesn’t give a fuck. She stands out, and she owns that.
What is a seductress? She’s unapologetic. And how do you become unapologetic? You work through your shit around being apologetic. Who fucking told you that you needed to be sweet and nice and demure and meek? I remember going on a date with a guy years ago, and he was talking about the kinds of women that he goes for. He told me that he really loved meek women, and I turned around and said, “Well, you’re gonna hate me.” And I sure as hell wasn’t apologetic about it!
What is a seductress rooted in, and how does she manifest her desires? She’s actually a dark feminine archetype, and the dark feminine pulls things in.
As women, we have this innate feminine ability to pull things into our sphere and receive. So if you’re cut off from your feminine, you’re cut off from receiving love, receiving money, receiving pleasure. (We go into this quite deeply in my programs Go Fuck Yourself and The Connected Woman, so if you want to learn more about that, be sure to check those out! You can even bundle and save some money there.)
What is a seductress and what does she have to do with creation? If you’re a woman, you have this innate ability to create life. That’s what we do. So we are always creating, whether you think you are or not. This had nothing to do with physical children, but we are always going through cycles of birth and death in our lives, so we need to be connected to this energy of seduction. What is a seductress? She’s someone who’s connected to her sexuality and her sensuality. The more connected you are to your sensuality, the more connected you are to the practice of manifestation. The more connected you are to your creativity.
Here’s the thing: if you think you aren’t constantly creating, or you don’t think the question “What is a seductress?” has anything to do with creation, think of it this way…everything in your life is created by you. So we can look at the beautiful things that we’ve created…and maybe the not-so-beautiful things that we have created, and we can realize that we are powerful. And when we give our power away, we’re not connected to our seduction. We’re not connected to our ability to create. So what is a seductress, and why do you need to connect with her? You have to be able to hold the energy of seduction to hold the energy of delayed gratification.
Of course, no one wants to do that, because we’re addicted to instant gratification. We do a sexuality practice one time and we’re like, “I didn’t have a cervical orgasm. It didn’t work.” “I invested in a coach one time and I didn’t make my money back.” That’s not it, loves. We need to be connected to the energy of seduction, and seduction plays the long game.
What is a seductress? She’s patient. When I don’t get what I want straightaway, particularly in business, you know what I’d say? “Oh, God’s just teasing.” I like to believe that God and I are in this little fancy play of seduction. I have strong brat energy, so I don’t like to get what I want immediately, even though I will swear up and down that I do. I like to play in the energy of working for it. And so I allow that to turn me on. “Yes. I’m not getting what I want immediately. Oh, God’s giving me a little spank.” And just to clarify, when I say God, I mean the universe, a higher power, or whatever. I don’t mean God in a religious sense. I’m not religious at all. I’m spiritual. But the term God works for me, so that’s where I’m at with that. And you can sub in whatever term works for you. That’s totally cool. But what I’m saying is, we have this ability to command our reality. What is a seductress? She’s a commander of her own life. I like to think of being a seductress as this fun little game that I like to play where I’m seducing all of my fucking desires towards me. I don’t get shitty when it’s not happening immediately; I just remind myself that I’m in a game of seduction. It’s still happening, and I will be unapologetic in my desires.
What is a seductress? She’s someone who says what she wants loud and proud. Do I want to have a multimillion-dollar business? Fuck yes I do. Do I want a relationship that is inspiring to other people? Yep. Do I want to be having mind-blowing orgasms every single day? Yes I do. Do I want to have friendships that light me up and that I feel extremely safe in? Yes. Do I wanna be able to travel and stay at really luxurious places? Yes. And I am sick of women apologizing for all of their desires. You don’t have to apologize for wanting shit. You get to want what you want just because you want. Let’s just own it. And that will take some working through your shit on your part, actually, because you probably have a lot of conditioning telling you that wanting things is wrong and you shouldn’t want too much. And I think it’s just bullshit.
That’s it, loves. That’s what I have to say. I’m going to seduce myself and seduce my desires, and I’m never going to apologize for it.
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I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”