How is it over there on the Isle of Self-Loathing? Are you having fun chilling out with self-doubt and a scarcity mindset? No? Well then stop- just stop the constant focus on everything that’s wrong or could currently go wrong.

Your Perception Shapes Your Reality

Sure, sometimes circumstances in life can get hard, but for the most part, you set the tone for your own life. Are you living in the land of the desperate, constantly in a panic about the world running out of men and yourself running out of time and fun and youth and money? If that’s all you fixate on, and all you look for it literally wires your brain to look for every bad thing out there; it’ll even invent things to worry about so you’re caught up in a never-ending cycle of cynical mania. 

As a society, we’re so conditioned to only see problems instead of the solutions- opportunities to change and grow. Sure you could be a chronic pessimist in a misguided effort to keep yourself safe from hope, and the vulnerable beliefs it requires, but at what cost?  Your sanity? Garnering a reputation as a literal Debbie Downer? Yikes.

Perfection Isn’t Real so Stop Chasing It: The Bottomline

Let’s get one thing out in the open. When you say you want to feel like “enough” what you really mean is, you want to be perfect. I have news for you- that is never going to happen. Because perfect doesn’t exist. So you can live your life continually bashing yourself into the wall that is being human in a futile attempt to transcend to perfection, OR you could start to meet yourself where you’re at.

Because here’s the thing; while seeking improvement and growth is great, you’re also great just as you are, right now. And if you start viewing yourself as already enough, you’ll take so much pressure off of yourself and others. You’ll stop holding yourself and others to impossible standards. You’ll be happier and lighter and more open to the good.

So train your brain to find it, because while it’s good to check in with yourself sometimes and see where you could improve, it’s never good if it comes at the expense of loving yourself in the present moment.

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