When we think of stepping into our feminine energy, we might imagine putting on a sexy dress. Or doing our hair and makeup. Or cooking, cleaning, and taking care of every single thing for our partner. But all of this is missing the point. In fact, feminine energy is actually SO much more powerful than all of that.
In this post, I’m excited to talk about how to tap into your feminine energy to form more balanced relationships.
Every single person on the planet (regardless of gender) has both masculine and feminine energy, and we can learn to work with these forces to help us have more balanced, fulfilling relationships.
The masculine energy is the action-oriented, leading energy. It’s penetrative, whereas the feminine energy is receptive. The feminine energy speaks to our internal world – it encompasses our intuition and flow.
What happens a lot when I work with women about their femininity is that they think stepping into their feminine means dressing up and feeling & looking pretty. And while beauty is just one part of femininity, it’s actually quite a reductive way of looking at it.
Because the feminine is everything. It is raw emotion. It is the totality of the experience of being human. It is being open and receptive to what is. And when we put femininity into a box of “looking pretty and being nice,” we are doing a massive disservice to this energy.
For a relationship to work, you need to have someone who’s primarily in their masculine and someone who is primarily in their feminine energy.
Think of it like two magnets: If you have a negative pole and a negative pole or a positive pole and a positive pole, they’re going to repel each other. Friend zones happen when you have two people in their masculine or two people in their feminine. There is simply no polarity to create that attraction.
But if you have a negative pole and a positive pole, BOOM! Attraction.
A lot of my female clients want to attract a masculine man, because they primarily enjoy being in their feminine energy. But if you want to attract a masculine man, you need to inspire and allow him to lead. And that means a bit of submission on your part.
It means feeling out a situation yourself and then trusting and surrendering to his leadership. It means being comfortable with the uncomfortable, shutting up, and letting him figure it out. Let. Him. Lead.
And if you truly want a man to lead, you have to be willing to let him get it wrong.
Now, this isn’t about testing or manipulating a man at all. It’s actually about allowing him the space to be in his masculine energy.
And that means you have to be willing to sit in the uncomfortable feeling of not being in control. You have to be willing to let go and surrender and submit. Now, I know this is a loaded word, but I swear this is not about you being a passive fifties housewife. Not at all.
It’s actually about trusting him to lead in his masculine so that you can fully embody your feminine. It’s about being able to receive and being willing to sit in the unknown while he leads.
And by doing that, you get to be in your feminine. You get to be in your receiving and your pleasure and your joy and your eroticism and your openness. And THAT is where the magic really happens.
If you’ve never approached dating or relationships in this way before, try it on and see how it feels. See if you start attracting different kinds of men! Note that you can also apply these concepts in any non-heterosexual relationship, and you can also play with being more in your masculine while your man takes on a more feminine role. Have fun with it!
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I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”