Hello, my loves. Today, I’m going to take you through the connection between feminine energy, multidimensionality, and the direct effect they have on your magnetism.
Your magnetism fully lies in your multidimensionality. And if you don’t know what I mean by that, well…that’s why you’re here, right? Let’s get into it.
So recently on my Instagram, I was talking about how a man is never going to get bored when you are really anchored in your multidimensionality, which is feminine energy, because the feminine is everything.
Not everyone knows this. Way too often, I see women trying to embody just one flavor of feminine energy, and that’s their entire thing. They take their entire selves and try to contain it to one category.
When you look on Instagram and other socials, maybe you see women who are in the rice fields in Bali, frolicking in their flowing linen dress or whatever, and that’s very much the feminine energy of the maiden archetype. Or maybe you see these women who are super connected to nature, women who have children, and it’s all very much about the earth and being connected to your womb. That’s the feminine energy of the mother.
You might even see other women who are very much in their seductress energy and living from a space of sensuality.
All of these things are part of the feminine. However, too many times people look at just one of them and go, “Okay, so that encompasses what feminine energy is.”
After working with hundreds and hundreds of clients around their feminine energy, as well as navigating my own journey, I’ve found that there’s usually going to be one or two flavors that you feel specifically drawn to. And, conversely, there will also be other examples of feminine energy that you actually feel repelled by.
Now, it’s not wrong to feel either way about certain energies. All of these things hold incredible wisdom for you. You want to look at the archetypes of feminine energy that you’re feeling very drawn to, but you also want to look at the flavors or the tones of the feminine that you feel repelled by.
When people think about feminine energy, they usually think about words like soft, gentle, nurturer, carer, maternal. Those are the terms I see a lot when people talk about the feminine, and they think those are the things they need to be in order to embody feminine energy.
So if they’re strong and independent and know what they want, they assume that they’re not feminine. And while those traits can be part of masculine energy as well, they’re also another flavor of feminine energy.
The feminine is the wise woman. She is the crone. She is the sage. She is the innocent maiden. She’s a sparkle fairy who brings life and innocence and play to everyone she comes into contact with.
She’s the cock-sucking whore. She’s the seductress. She’s the feral fucking banshee. She’s the wild woman. She’s the boss. She’s the diva.
There are so many different aspects and facets to the feminine, and when you only embody one of them…nobody’s magnetized to that. Being one-tone is actually so fucking boring.
I’m not excited by someone who is one flavor of feminine energy all of the time.
If you’re just sweet and nice, I find you boring. If that is your only bit of feminine energy and you can’t access anything outside of that, I find you boring. I’m not magnetized to that.
If you are only in your seductress energy and you can’t access your vulnerability, or you’re only in your maternal energy and you can’t access your ability to be wild? Boring.
We need to think about what actually creates magnetism. When you look at the people you are magnetized to online, what is it about them specifically that draws you to them?
For example, I remember being at a workshop years ago, and I could not stop looking at this woman.
I was fascinated by her. I would look at her Instagram all the time, and I didn’t know what it was about her, but I was just obsessed.
Externally, she was a very pretty girl, but that wasn’t the thing that drew me to her. There was just something about her energy. And when I actually felt into it, when I broke down the texture of what I was experiencing with her, the thing that drew me in was her ability to float between these different energies.
She would float between being so soft and present and gentle and vulnerable, all innocent and pure and maiden, and then the next minute she would be writhing in pleasure, embodying her slut energy and owning her pleasure. And then the next second, she would be expressing her rage (mind you, we were in a workshop. It was the right space for that. We weren’t in a grocery store, you know?), and it wasn’t just simple anger. It was full growling, drooling, on the floor, fully embodying this wild woman rage and allowing the earth energy to really penetrate her and fuck her open.
I was so magnetized by her ability to float in and out of all these different energies, and it made me stop and go, “Fuck, where am I actually getting stuck in one flavor?”
I mentioned earlier that oftentimes, we’ll find ourselves drawn to one or two specific archetypes of the feminine, and we’ll feel repulsed by others.
For me, I felt that I was pretty embodied in my slut energy and my wild woman. That felt very natural for me, so I kept gravitating toward those aspects of feminine energy. It was very easy for me to be sexual, to be sensual, to be playful and curious, to be rageful, to be wild.
But on the other end, I felt very, very strong resistance to the maiden and the mother. I felt repulsed by any of the softer, nurturing, innocent shades of feminine energy, and as a result, I had a lot of judgment around women who embodied those energies.
That repulsion was my ego protecting me from seeing different parts of myself that I wasn’t ready to see. So when I finally started exploring the different energies and journeyed the maiden, it was so heartbreaking to see how much I had actually disowned that part of myself.
It’s only been over the past year or so that I’ve finally started to come into my softness and own that multidimensionality.
I am fucking direct. I will tell you the truth. I am wild, I am slutty, I am sexual. I am strong. I am sovereign.
But I’m also soft. I’m very nurturing. I’m very caring. I am all of it. And that’s what we’re doing with embracing the multidimensionality of the feminine: we’re working on reclaiming these parts of ourselves that we’ve rejected.
It takes work. You have to be self-aware. In moments where I would want to put walls up or moments where I would want to harden, I would make a conscious effort to soften back into this different aspect of my feminine that wasn’t as strong as other aspects of my feminine, and it has completely shifted my relationship—not just my relationship with myself, but also my relationship with my partner. The more that I have been able to lean into all different aspects of my feminine, the more my partner has been able to step into different aspects of his masculine, and it’s actually really helped our polarity.
The maiden wasn’t the only archetype I worked with when I started to explore different energies. There was the maiden, the slut, the queen, the mother, and the wild woman.
(FYI, I’m going to be weaving that work into the Connected Woman Experience as well. So if you are thinking about joining and you think this all sounds really exciting, then I highly recommend that you join the Connected Woman Experience.)
Anyway, when I started to play with these different archetypes, I noticed that it actually infused more life into my relationships.
When a woman taps into her multidimensionality and can access all parts of her feminine, it’s so enticing and magnetizing and exciting for the masculine, because he’s never bored.
So, if your man is bored, maybe ask yourself…is he bored because you’re just fucking boring?
I know that’s harsh, but it’s true. If you’re just one flavor, if you’re just one shade of people-pleaser, nobody wants to fuck that.
We need the ability to dance between all these different things. You can be vulnerable, you can be soft, you can be slutty, you can be direct, you can be wild, you can be playful, you can be bossy…you can be all of it, and that is what’s exciting to the masculine, because the masculine is always looking to the feminine for more fullness and more life.
That is what the feminine provides for the masculine. And when we’re just one shade of feminine, we’re not providing that life force energy for the masculine, and we miss the full potency of the feminine.
Allowing yourself to move through these seasons and strengthening the pieces of your feminine you may have rejected before…that’s what is going to create magnetism in your relationships.
If this is all enticing to you, if you know that you need this and you want to go deeper, I have a course coming out called Becoming Her, which I’m so excited about. It’s going to be all about embodying your feminine, becoming “Her,” and stepping into your multidimensionality.
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I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”