In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing the moment when I felt like everything shifted for me – and how the lessons I learned can help you become the next-level version of yourself!
Everything is possible: the love you want, the relationship you want, the partner you want. It’s all here. And even though the things you want might not be happening right now, it’s still happening slowly.
For me, my purpose was really clear. I had a moment where I started to connect to God, or the universe, or spirit – insert any word you want. I remember this moment so clearly. And I really attribute my success in my business, love, and friendships to my spiritual connection.
But before that, for anyone who doesn’t know, I was a stripper for 11 years. And it was my last day working at this one bar. It was my last shift ever at this place, and I decided that I wanted to go to the beach afterwards.
Now, this is when I was living in Melbourne, so it was cold. And I went to the beach, and I had no swimsuit, but I just went in the bodysuit I was wearing. And I got in the ocean and I remember asking so clearly: “God… what do I do?”
At this point, I’d been working with a coach. I’d been going on so many dates, and nothing was really working out in the way that I wanted it to. I wasn’t really meeting anyone that I felt really lit up by. I was feeling lost and discouraged.
And at the beach, I got the message so clearly to move to Queensland. So for anyone who’s not in Australia, that’s like the other side of the country. It’s like a different state. And I’d had that thought before, but I knew that NOW was the time, and that everything had been leading me to this.
And I got on the dating apps, and I set my location up to the place where I wanted to move in Queensland. And within a few days, I matched with my partner and the rest is history!
So the reason why I’m sharing this story with you is because within me, there was a decision that I made, and I was willing to follow it. The universe never gives you the full roadmap, right? You just get clues. And so you may think things aren’t working, that they’re not happening. If you want love and you haven’t found it yet, every single thing is bringing you closer and closer.
In that moment for me on the beach, I fully surrendered and opened to receiving that message from the universe. And so that is what I invite you to do: to receive. And that doesn’t just relate to receiving messages from the universe. I invite you to open to receive because you cannot be in a sexy, erotic, juicy, fun, healthy relationship if you are not able to receive.
This is why I want women to connect to their bodies and intuitions – because that is how you receive. If you listen to your body, it will give you a clear “yes” or a clear “no”… and it makes everything so much easier. But if you’re not open to receiving the messages, then you’re just running around like a chicken with its head cut off.
One of my favorite life analogies is from the movie The Secret. It’s the part where the man tells you to imagine that you’re on a highway and there’s nobody else on the highway. It’s just you in your car at night, pitch black, but you’ve got your headlights on and you’re driving and driving and driving. And you can see 200 meters in front of you, but not past that. But you keep driving because you trust that the next part of the road is going to be there. So you get the next 200 meters, and then the next 200 meters, and then the next 200 meters.
And that’s how life is. When you are in your flow, when you are in your feminine, you are trusting. And when you trust yourself, when you trust the universe, you are being led. And so it might not make sense, and you have to be willing to let it not make sense.
A lot of these messages come in and you go, “What the fuck? Oh, my God, you want me to move states? Oh God, it’s hard enough where I am. I’m not going to move to a state where I don’t know anyone, and then I’m going to have to go on dating apps there. That sounds terrible!”
But there’s a plan. There is a plan for you, and just because you don’t know the entirety of the plan, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t one. You have to anchor into a deep trust and safety within yourself and KNOW that you are being led.
What if every single bad date is just leading you to your person? What if every single dumb conversation that you have on Bumble is leading you to the one? What if every time you get rejected, you’re being prepared to deeply love yourself so that when that other person comes along, you are ready>
You are open, you are available, and you have a heart that is soft and supple and sensitive. Trust that absolutely everything is happening for you, even if it doesn’t make sense.
Journaling about this process of receiving can be so helpful and clarifying.
Something I write in my journal nearly every day is “my desires never lead me astray.” Never, never, never, never, never. And so even if something seems like the wrong decision in the moment, it’s never the wrong decision if it’s something you truly want.
Here are some journal prompts that I’ve found super helpful along my own journey to connect with my intuition:
What am I willing to receive? What am I willing to know?
How can I see things differently?
How can I open myself up to receive & take action?
The more you can hear yourself, the easier it will be to truly trust yourself and take the very next step on your path. You’ve got this!
Thank you so much for reading! Be sure to connect with me more over on Instagram, I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were! Or head over to my website to learn more about how we can work through your relationship journey together.
See you back here in the next one!
I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”