Hello, my loves. Today, I am so excited to be joined by my client and friend and incredible human design reader, Mallory!
It was an absolute no-brainer to have her come and share some of her wisdom in this space. I’ve never met someone who’s so congruent and so in integrity with what they teach.
We’re going to talk about human design and how it impacts relationships specifically. And if you’re not familiar with human design, hang in there—we’ll go into what it is for anyone who doesn’t know. For now, say hello to Mallory!
Michelle: Go ahead and introduce yourself!
Mallory: Thank you so much, Michelle, for that beautiful introduction. To introduce myself, my name is Mallory. I’m an entrepreneur and CEO of my business Verde, which is founded on the science and teachings of human design.
If you’re not familiar with human design, human design is pretty much an energetic blueprint. It’s a shortcut to living in your own highest alignment.
What I help you do is to discover a shortcut to your dreams and your desires at their core.
For instance, I have a 6/3 profile, and that means I learn best through trial and error. So I already went out and did the trial and error for you guys when it comes to creating shortcuts using human design.
One way you can use these shortcuts is to make the conscious decision for yourself, but you can also make a conscious decision to work toward the betterment of either a current partnership or a future partnership. You want to live in the relationship’s highest alignment, right?
So overall, human design is an energetic blueprint of how your energy operates easiest in this lifetime. So for example, if you’re consistently feeling stuck or frustrated or bitter or disappointed, that is a beautiful red flag for you to look into and say, “How can I begin to choose differently for myself?” And that’s what I help you do with human design.
Mallory: There are five different types of human design. Your type is composed of your birthday time, year, and location.
The types include generators, manifesting generators, manifesters, projectors, and reflectors.
Now, 70% of our world is composed of generators and manifesting generators. Michelle and I are both generators.
If you’re a generator or manifesting generator, you are solely meant to do what you love each and every single day. And by you doing that, things come into your world for you to respond to. Relationships come into your world for you to respond to. Opportunities come into your world for you to respond to. You don’t have to go initiating things.
However, Michelle’s partner Drew is a manifester. He is here to initiate. He’s meant to inform. He’s meant to share all of his ideas. It’s really prevalent for him to speak on what’s coming up for him, and you two are a beautiful example of creating a relationship with you both in your highest alignment, because you as a generator are able to respond to what he’s sharing, which is really cool.
So, what makes someone a generator or manifesting generator in this world is what’s called a defined sacral center. That means you are meant to use your energy in regards to following your gut and sexual organs. But manifesters, projectors, and reflectors do not have a defined sacral center. So for each three of those types, it’s actually really important for them to rest. Rest equals success for them.
They are not meant to be working a nine to five job. If you’re a manifester, projector, or reflector, and you’re feeling totally depleted after work every single day, that’s why. You are meant to rest each and every single day. And the more that you rest, especially if you’re a projector, the more you can accomplish.
Michelle: When Mallory and I were speaking about doing this interview, I had this idea to go through Drew and I’s chart just to see how human design makes sense between two partners in the dynamic of a romantic relationship. What are the things that you see, Mallory?
Mallory: Let’s start with discussing your authority, which is basically how you make big decisions.
Michelle has sacral authority, since she is a generator. And if you’re a generator or a manifesting generator listening to this, it does not mean you automatically have sacral authority. I actually have emotional authority as a generator.
Drew has emotional authority as a manifester. Michelle has sacral authority. What that means is that when Michelle is making a big decision—for example, the decision to move in with Drew—
Michelle is designed to make a big decision immediately. She immediately trusts her gut. But for Drew, it’s really important for him to ride his wave. His energy flows easiest when he allows himself at least twenty-four hours to make a big decision.
So Michelle can have a gut feeling that something is an absolute yes right away, but Drew needs to be able to process first. The way they can work together in each other’s highest alignment is by Michelle saying, “I know how I feel, but we’re going to honor your need for twenty-four to forty-eight hours to ride that wave and feel everything, and then we’re going to meet back together and share how we both felt.”
So, Michelle, if you did not honor your energy by having sacral authority, if you just allowed yourself to ride your emotional wave as Drew is meant to do, then you’d start to experience more frustration.
You can potentially go into overthinking. You may lose track of what your first gut instinct even was. So when he reaches the point where he feels satisfied, you’re frustrated as shit because you don’t even know how you feel about this anymore. So it’s really, really important for the both of you to have the awareness of each other’s authority first and foremost.
Michelle: Looking at our chart, what do you feel like is our biggest strength as a couple, and what would be our biggest weakness? How can we navigate that?
Mallory: So, when looking at your charts, I was extremely generated because it was just so, so beautiful looking at the both of your charts. specifically. What really stood out to me aside from what we were talking about is that every single center that you have defined, Drew has opened.
And every single center that Drew has defined, you have opened. So that’s really interesting.
One of the two things that you both have that are the same in your chart is your G center, which is all about the self-direction within yourself. That’s self-love, which makes sense, because you’re both beautiful at having that self-love for yourself and being a guiding example to others.
On the other end of the spectrum, you also both have an open ego and heart center. That’s basically where you both can take on each other’s emotions and conditionings if you’re not aware or you don’t have the resources and tools to be able to decondition and use discernment in regards to what is yours and what is Drew’s.
Michelle: Are there any parting words that you feel you need to share?
Mallory: If you’re reading this and you are feeling stuck, unmotivated in your career, or like you don’t even know who you are, I can resonate. I relate to you. That was me a year ago.
If you’re reading this, consider it a sign for you to really lean in and trust yourself and believe that you can do it.
You do have the choice to choose differently for yourself. You have the choice to create your own reality. Truthfully, you have the choice to show up differently for yourself, and you don’t have to do it alone.
That is why Michelle and I are both here. That is why we did the work: so you don’t have to go out and figure it out on your own.
You can have everything you desire and more. I’m living, breathing proof. Michelle is living, breathing proof that this can happen for you, and it doesn’t have to take ten years. It doesn’t have to take two years. It can take three months. It can take a month. It just depends on how dedicated you want to be to changing your life.
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I get it, girl. I’ve been there too. For years, I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious and pissed off.
I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected and abandoned. It all changed when I went through a break-up and thought “enough is enough. I cannot continue to repeat the same relationships with different men! Something HAS to change!”